"May be crush, no actually love! Ah!!! I do not know.."

Look at them, they are such a cute pair. They have been committed since 6th grade. Their marriage is fixed for the next month now.....

Committed at the age of 10 or 11! First of all why would anyone call it a commitment?! I would define commitment as when both individuals are mature enough to take care of each other and also take care of themselves, to take a decision on their own and to abide by it, and to fund himself and his partner!

At the age of 10 or 11, its lure. When they move on to senior secondary, its attraction or crush. During the college-hood, its youth. When you are a full-fledged adult(not major!), its love. As kids, they are seeds that have been just sowed. At secondary or senior secondary, they imbibe water. At college, they give off roots. A strong anchorage and footage is provided. They learn. they start maturing. And when they are adults, the plant not only grows but also the fruits begin to ripen.

Most kids, particularly the blossoming generation, have their own guidelines. Certainly our parents did not impose rules on us, but we had a protocol. We exactly knew what was expected of us. This sort of an attitude is probably missing these days. The word 'kids' freaks them out. Especially during their teenage, they feel on top of the world. Why are such scenarios being witnessed today? Is it due to the technology advancement? Is it due to too much of net surfing? I shall call it the 'unnecessary knowledge'! Life style has become sedentary. Constant computer, HDTV with new gaming softwares, chatting, orkut, facebook, mobile, junk food and cinema are the contents of their world.

Wonder why I talk like a cultural cop at this age? If one understands what is expected from them at any particular age and sticks to the decorum, age should not really matter to touch on such topics.

Why do you think a life partner is necessary at age 10 or 11? You have umpteen problems to share it with someone or you are just too happy to celebrate?! At senior secondary, does your career and future not stand in front of you? The ambitions, other's expectations, your responsibility and your competency not dominate you? So what if you have joined your under graduation? You are a grown up now? Only now are the roots out, without grabbing a proper anchorage you want to choose your partner?

Everything in life takes time. Why decide your life partner that early then? "He's not my life partner, he's just my boy friend." Do you not know what you want in life yourself? "We have a lot of things in common, we can work it out." I have only heard opposite poles attract!!! "You kidding me, we are poles apart!" Good one, what a way to reject a person. When one cannot mold oneself that early in life, how is it plausible to settle down with anyone?! Finally it ends up in a break-up. Why in this first place did you start it?!!

Change is the only constant thing that takes place! The maturity to accept the change, to accept that the person you love will change tomorrow and to continue loving him needs the mellowness. Instead to hang around with a lot of people, calling them your boy friends or girl friends, to choose a person for a changing you, is not very necessary.

To confide to someone, to disclose you does not necessarily involve a partner. You can have best friend, where both exactly know their boundaries or some close person to heart. In fact you need not give that relationship between you a name as far as you know the circumference.

Think about it, a life can be different(not always glee may be) without a partner at young age! Enjoy life the way you want it to and not let anybody dictate or domineer you..

A word or two to parents, talking as a representative for our generation. We expect our parents to open themselves more to us. A generation gap is always noticed. If your kid makes a mistake, before punishing him, know what his intentions are. Like, seizing a mobile from a girl who talks a lot to a guy, is a punishment and not a solution. :)

Not everyone of us are fortunate as those couples(first paragraph) to marry their first lure, first attraction, first crush and most importantly first love ...